Over the past month as Monkey's father and I have been working together to transition him home, I have seen his dad in action. And I can honestly say that I have absolutely no reservations about Monkey leaving my home for his father's. I think that's probably a very rare thing in foster care, but it's the small things that I've witnessed firsthand that reassure me that Monkey is in good hands when he's with his daddy.
- Monkey racing across the room just as excited to see his daddy as he usually is to see me.
- His dad always taking the time to come in and greet and pet Kitty Cat Tommie when he comes to pick up or drop off Monkey for visits. I mean, really... Anyone who takes the time to spoil and love on my cat has to have a good heart, right?!? ;-)
- Dad calling to check in on Monkey earlier this week to check on him and see how he was feeling after getting over his ear infection.
- Monkey coming home last week on a cold, rainy day dressed appropriately in a hooded jacket and bundled in a blanket while his daddy carried him. (Dad looked like he was freezing in nothing but a t-shirt and jeans, but that's a man for ya! :-)
- Dad asking for my opinion on different baby products (ex. what works, what do I like, etc.) and always wanting to know what types of things Monkey prefers.
- Getting the play-by-play rundown of everything care-related that happened with Monkey while he was with his dad. Seriously. The man practically tells me how many individual peas the child ate while he was with him! It does reassure me though, so I'm happy to hear that Monkey passed wind at 12:36pm if that is what his father wants to share with me. ;-)
- Watching his dad pat his back, tousle his hair, kiss his cheek, etc. without even thinking about it while he's in the middle of a conversation with me. All things that I do too when I'm holding Monkey...
Monkey left with his daddy this morning for a long weekend visit, and as much as I miss him when he's not with me, I know he's well-loved and cared for while he's with his father. It definitely makes fostering much, much easier when you aren't afraid for your child when they leave your home. I know so many of you have had to return your children to the exact same situation that they were originally removed from, and I know how scary that is. I am just very, very thankful that my kiddos have gone to good places, and that the term "deadbeat dads" definitely doesn't apply when it comes to my kids.